This episode is part of the Comeback Series, which features Entrepreneurs who have experienced a major setback and then successfully pivoted to something different, bigger, and more impactful.
Today’s guest, Nick DiNardo, had his whole world flipped upside down at age seven. Now he helps entrepreneurs perform at their very best and teaches them to overcome overwhelm… but he had to build resilience to get there.
Nick’s mother experienced her second bipolar episode when he was seven, which led to some time in a hospital, his parent’s divorce, and his father’s bankruptcy. He felt angry, ashamed, misplaced, and like everyone else had a nuclear family that he could not have.
These experiences allowed Nick to develop resilience, and he believes he has thrived off of the adversity he experienced.
But how does someone build resilience if they experience success, instead of adversity? If Nick’s son grows up under better circumstances, how will he develop an awareness of struggle?
“The difference between the high-performers and the average is the ability to identify and use adversity to your opportunity, rather than avoiding it or just letting it pass you by.”
Nick’s book, The Game of Adversity, offers eight practices that will help anyone turn difficulty into opportunity, developed through his years of experience as a practitioner of resilience.
- Building a Growth Mindset is the keystone habit and foundational principle of his book.
- Process Over Outcome is about focusing on the daily habits and practices that we need, rather than being too overly-focused on goal-setting. We shouldn’t rely too much on goal-setting.
- Focus on Stoicism, or what we can control, and our relationship with failure.
- Building Self-Awareness
- Focus on Goals That are Bigger Than You
- Standing on the Shoulders of Giants is about perspective, and understanding history and the challenges people have gone through before you.
- Gratitude, and appreciation over expectation.
If you have faced adversity or struggle and you haven’t built your resiliency, where should you start? Nick suggests an exercise for identifying how you naturally react to adversity so that you can review the game tape and change your processes.
- Tim Kight, Founder of Focus3 Consulting, developed this heuristic: Event + Response = Outcome (E + R = O).
- You can’t control the event and you can’t control the outcome, but you can control your response.
- Brainstorm 10 specific tough times that you have experienced adversity (small to big).
- In each of those moments, what was the outcome and how did you respond?
- How would you respond now, knowing what you know now and what the optimal response would have been?
I appreciate Nick coming on the show and sharing his vulnerability. People don’t think of vulnerability as a strength often enough, but it is incredibly powerful – and Nick is living proof.
Don’t be a podcast junkie…
- Connect with Nick: Website | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn | Instagram
- Listen to Nick’s podcast: The Sweet Adversity Podcast
- The Game of Adversity: 8 Practices To Turn Life’s Toughest Moments Into Your Greatest Opportunities by Nick DiNardo
- Aspire: Discovering Your Purpose Through the Power of Words by Kevin Hall
- The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor
- “Here’s The Strategy Elite Athletes Follow To Perform At The Highest Level” by Ryan Holiday
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